Due to the differences in our upbringing, culture, religion and various other factors, each of us have different perceptions of the things around us. We perceive people and our surroundings differently, as such, our styles of communication are affected too.
I think perception plays a big role whenever we meet someone new for the first time. How we perceive this first impression will determine how we’ll communicate with them in the future. Needless to say, because of perception, first impression always makes an impact.
“First impression is an instantaneous of you as a whole person based on very little information.”
Although this video is for men regarding dating, I find it applicable to many other situations as well – not just dating. It’s informative and applies to regular platonic relationships and other situations as well.
Perception is a double edged sword. People perceive you base on the mere 5 minutes of the first interaction and first impression. Afterwards, they assume that’s the way you behave all the time, regardless of situations. These assumptions could be unintentional, but they play a big role in the future of the relationship. Perception can then work towards our advantage as well as disadvantage.
Equipped with the power to… “manipulate” perception, communication would be much easier. With a favorable impression, we would find it easier to communicate and to persuade others.
Unfortunately, I find that easier said than done. Perception is subjective and everyone views things differently. What might be a positive impression might be viewed as “eager to please” or being a “smart alec” to others. What’s “pretty” to me might be “ugly” to others.
Humans! How do I please thee?
Chrislyn Said:
on February 4, 2008 at 7:47 am
In my point of view, how each person view a certain situation or a certain person pretty much determines the impression the situation or person have on the individual. For instance, a person who likes to joke and kid around maybe be perceived by one as a joyial or a happy-go-lucky kind of person but may appear to be irritating to another.
Humans are indeed strange creatures that are hard to please…
jesmelz Said:
on March 7, 2008 at 3:14 pm
I totally agreed! Everyone has their own perspective and it can be very subjective. I have never came across two persons that totally think and perceive things in the same way. Like what you said, what’s beautiful to one might not be beautiful in the eyes of other. :]